My next-door neighbor of 20 years died in a terrible car accident a month ago. He was 39 years old. His house is only two houses from mine. I never met him. I don’t know who he was. That gave me a lot to think about.
I am kind of embarrassed to share this. I think we should all revisit our relationships to find out if they are phony or authentic. I suspect that we are getting way too many fake and phony friends that don’t add any value to our lives.
I have thousands of friends on Facebook and Twitter. I’m sure you do as well. We call them friends. Right? Isn’t it embarrassing to have thousands of friends on Facebook and you don’t know your neighbor who is two houses from you?
I don’t know about you. As for me, that’s very embarrassing. Years ago, the people living in the neighborhoods were one family. They knew each other. They were there for each other. To this day, I still hear people talking about how their neighbor practically raised them.
What changed all of that? I suspect the Facebook, Twitter and all the other social media stuff changed that. We find it easier to hide behind a computer screen and make friends with people we never meet.
Think about it this way: If your house started burning down, do you think there’s a better chance your neighbor will show up to help you instead of a friend on Facebook that you’ve never met? You bet!
In fact, the majority of your friends in cyberspace don’t care. They are funny and fake friends. As a matter of fact, there are websites where you can go and buy 20,000 of them instantly.
For the most part, those superficial and artificial relationships don’t add any value to either party. They are just distractions. They keep you away from focusing on things that matter to your life and business.
Yes, you are learning more because of Social Media. But, you also have less time to apply what you are learning. You are taking less action. You lose your focus.
I remember when I could lock myself in a room for two months and write a book. Today, I can barely write one chapter in two months. Way too many distractions are beckoning for my attention.
The reality is, 95% of my so-called friends on the Social Media are there to sell me their stuff. Now, there’s nothing wrong with that. Just don’t consider me as your friend when you keep pestering me to buy your stuff. Just call me your prospect instead of a friend.
By the way, keep in mind, in business there should be an exchange of value. Don’t expect me to buy from unless you first give me some value. If I’m not mistaken, Social Media was created for sharing. Share with ME!
I Need Your Advice
Here is what I’m thinking. I want to close all my social media accounts. I don’t want all that phony stuff anymore. What do you think? Help me out. Should I close them? Do have some advice for me? Comment below.