In the last post on how to change your current situation, I encouraged you to write down your ideal lifestyle five years from now. I told you not restrain yourself—not to design your future based on your current circumstances, fears, or reality. I also asked you to believe.
Now, pay close attention. I want to break it down for you. First, please understand that I’m not trying to tell you what to do with your life. I just have a hunch maybe you want to a better life.
But change is a complex undertaking. Whether it’s individual, organizational, or social, there are many forces at play. As you might imagine, it’s not easy to change your current situation.
So, if you’ve been trying to change your current situation and you’re not making progress, I want to offer you a fresh perspective. I want to go behind the scene to help you understand why you may not succeeding at driving change – professionally and personally.
Imagine a five-year-old kid leading a 400-pound gorilla that doesn’t want to be led. How effective do you think the kid would be if he or she politely asked the gorilla to move? This question is not to trick you. Because the answer is, that depends.
Now, what do I mean by that? Well, obviously the gorilla is in charge. It is much bigger and more powerful than the kid. However, the kid can only use tactical and strategic levers to force the gorilla to obey. Here’s what I mean:
It is said we have two brains. We have the emotional brain—the one that feels. We have the logical (rational) brain—the one that analyzes everything. It’s also the one that makes us procrastinate or think we’re not ready to start.
Those two brains are often referred to as the conscious and unconscious mind. Let me put it in a context that might make more sense to you.
Your rational or logical brain is the kid that’s trying to lead the gorilla. It’s your conscious mind or your awareness. The emotional brain is the 400-pound gorilla behind the kid.
That gorilla doesn’t want to move or change. Thus is the root of your current internal conflicts. What do I mean by that? Your emotional brain is always in control. It dictates the action you take. Let me give you an example.
In your logical mind, you want to go to the gym to workout or change your situation. Your outcome may be to lose 10 pounds in six months. But your emotional brain—the gorilla—doesn’t want to feel the pain. It’s the part of your brain that’s keeping from going to the gym.
Instead, it prefers the pleasure of a cup of Ice scream or a chocolate cake. It gives this weird feeling of “I can’t resist this chocolate.” Are you still with me? The gorilla is in charge.
Do you see the battle? Are you seeing why the kid has such a hard time leading the 400-pound gorilla? Are you seeing why you can really want something and yet it’s so hard for you to take the right actions to get it? But you know what?
You can empower the kid to take charge any time you want and force it to help you change your current situation. Let’s see how you can do so.
3 Ways To Force Your Emotional Brain Into Submission So You Can Change Your Current Situation
1-Give The Gorilla Specific Directions. Do you know why you can’t resist the chocolate or the ice scream? It’s because the gorilla doesn’t get clear, firm and specific directions to change. Now, let me tell you this: If you don’t give it specific and detailed directions firmly, it will eventually take you to the city of regrets. Give it clear guidance.
2-Touch The Gorilla’s Heart. Your feelings come from your heart. That’s where your tears flow. It’s where change begins. It’s what changes behaviors and attitudes. If your heart is not in it, change is not going to happen. So, how do you touch the heart?
Have a strong emotional why! It’s like this: You’ve got to pick up the phone, face your fears, and make the sale. Why? It’s because your daughter’s education depends on it. Your current situation demands for it.
Your heart will break if your daughter finishes high school and you can’t afford to send her to college. That’s your why. The more emotional it is, the more you are driven. Find your why and make it emotional. Do you follow?
3-Keep Remind The Gorilla. State what you want to change and the reason why you want that change first thing in the morning and last thing at night. Cut out pictures of the current university that your daughter will attend and put it on your wall as a reminder. Keep reminding the gorilla because it has short memory.
I hope this wasn’t too confusing. Let me summarize the ways you can change your current situation.
With your logical brain, you can say what you want to change and mean it. But it’s the gorilla—your emotion that is in charge of the change. That’s why every time you take one step forward, it pulls you two steps backwards.
That’s the framework I have been using to get whatever I want. It should work for you, too.
1-Specific, firm and clear directions. See it the change you want vividly.
2- Determine your emotional why–the thing that will wake you up in the morning with passion and determination to create change in your life.
3- Keep reminding yourself day and night through verbal, mental repetition and visuals. All right? Now, it’s your time to put these strategies into action.
I wish an amazing year! Go ahead start doing something to…
Change Your Current Situation