Have you ever wondered why some people seem to have everything going for them yet they are still struggling to get by? I mean, they are so smart, good looking, and outgoing yet they just can seem to succeed.
Why is that?
It’s because those people are lacking one of the most important ingredients for success. It’s almost like having everything necessary ready to cook your favorite recipe and have no fire.
That ingredient is the ability to get along well with people–To be nice. You see, everything that you and I will ever have in our possession belongs to someone else. I mean your car, house, clothes and money were somebody’s belonging before you had them.
Basically, to get what you want, you are going to learn to be nice to other people. If you work for someone that signs your paycheck or has the power to promote or demote you, you’ve got to be nice to that person. In fact, you should be nice to everyone you work with.
It’s absurd to keep biting the hands that are feeding you. I never forgot the gentleman who wanted to know how to become a motivational speaker. He was so rude. As a result, he got absolutely no information from me.
Let me be clear here. I’m not talking about sucking up. I’m rather talking about using certain psychological triggers to get another human being to like you and give you what you want.
A few example of psychological triggers are to lavishly shower others with praises and compliments or be a great listener; giving little gifts to others.
Yes, there are other key ingredients to success such as discipline, focus, and integrity. But the one that stands above all of them is your ability to make friends.
My assignment to you is to ask yourself this question: “How am I being perceived by other people? Am I a nice person?”
Please don’t give me the I-can’t-please-everybody stuff. I know that. No matter how nice you are, some people still won’t like you. But, come on… You know what I mean here.
It’s not hard to realize maybe you need to change your tone and be considerate to other people’s feelings. In fact, why don’t you start asking others for feedback?
Find out if you are coming across as bossy, demanding, inconsiderate, or pushy. Alright, some people will not tell you the truth because they are themselves nice people who don’t want to hurt your feeling. But some will definitely let you know the truth.
Listen, I’m not suggesting you are not nice to others. Perhaps you are a really nice person. If so, this is not for you. However, every now and then we all need some good reminders.
So, if you are a nice person, this is just to remind you how nice you are.
Keep being nice!
Rene,
I really needed to read this blog as smart as I like to think that I am if I don’t know anything else I do know that attitude is everything and yet lately.
I must admit my attitude has been sloppy with everything and everyone and although unless the person is really close to me such as my children they don’t really get to feel the raft.
Then I say to those same individuals that I am not being mean I just prefer not to add sugar to the behavior that I am addressing at the time.
I am going to be going over your recently entire site until tell my attitude adjust but in order to do that I have to first change my way of thinking when it comes to getting the job done.
I am more like a pit bull then a butterfly so no more and you my friend will be the one to help me with this task, by the way.
I hope you don’t mind if I try and send you a picture of me just so that you can put a face to the words. Keep up the good work.
Hi rene i realy love the litle audio that you share i think i will try it at work
by the way i probably going to haiti in august let me know if you will be outhere
continue you good job may God open more door for u this years million are coming soon
God bless
Diego
Hi Renne
I agree with above statement of being nice to others and I have tried to ptractice it and indeed I do feel good when someone is praising me for the work done.
It is part of creating motivation however it’s problematic when other people are taking avdantage and ask too many faviours knowing that you are a good person and definatetly you will help them, simple because being nice to other as a tool of enhencing motivation is intrinsic.
Mybe the question might be that of how do you deal with those who ask too many faviours.
Thanks
Mkhethwa Mdlalose
+27 7397 50620
Hi Rene!
I really like what you are doing for the community, i mean you are helping us or rather you are helping me to become a better person in life.
Im not saying that i’m a bad person or anything in that line, all im saying is that while reading the passage about being nice i kind of picked up a few points that relates to me, or may be i should say they were meant for me.
Sometimes one think of themselves as being the best and all that, not that we should lower our self but then i somehow think we should have limits or may be i’m wrong please help me with that point there.
Rene the other issue i wanted to mention is that i have a huge problem with my concious, i tent to worry too much about what people will think and what they’ll say. I just a weakness in me and i would really love it if you could help me work on that, coz sometimes it breaks me down so much.
I always pray to God to help me with that, may be He’ll use you!
Thank you.
Jennifer
jmk2049@gmail.com