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I am about to share with you can totally change your
life. And no, it is not sucking up. It is a
secret weapon that is your greatest source of power.
Use it to your advantage. Let me explain.
Isn’t it annoying when you can’t get along
with your boss, colleagues, or subordinates? Would you
agree with me that spending 8 hours with an annoying
person is not fun? That is very stressful. Isn’t
it?
Years ago
when I didn’t know better, I would advise you
to quit that job and find another one. But you will
probably meet another person just like that person wherever
you go.
You might say, “I don’t like to suck up.
I want to be my own boss.” Well, losers call it
sucking up but winners call it making friends. Besides,
if you are planning to be your own boss one day, be
ready to suck up to your customers. That's called customer
service.
You see what
I mean? As the owner of your business, you better be
prepared to go out your way to please the customer.
And that’s the only way to be successful in business.
Having said that, I want you to know that the people
who tend to get on your last nerve sometimes suffer
from attention deprivation—low self-esteem.
What I mean
by that is although they may appear as if they are confident
and in control on the outside, they are probably feeling
very small on the inside. And therefore in order to
feel better, they have to flex their egotistical muscles.
Wouldn’t it be exciting if you knew how to control,
dominate, and reduce them to their lowest denominator?
That, my friend, would give you an unfair advantage.
Do you agree with me? Are you excited to learn how to
take charge and be in control?
Here Are 4 Powerful And Proven
Ways to do so:
1) Acknowledge the person…and
the personality. Years ago, I worked for a jerk that
used to push everyone around - everyone except me. Why?
I found a way to undermine his bullying. I would subliminally
slip words into our conversations that would imply he
was in charge. The best part is, he didn’t know
what I was doing.
Doesn’t
it thrill you to know you can control any situation
by feeding someone’s ego? Just by making
my former “boss” think he was superior,
I could easily pull his strings like a puppet. I could
see a complete transformation in his behavior towards
me. I literally controlled him and his actions. And
I would laugh on the inside every time. Do you think
you could try this?
2) Ask for their advice. When
you ask for someone’s advice, he or she automatically
feels a sense of worthiness. All you have to say is,
“I need your advice on…Or what do you think
of…" Do you really need their advice? Not
really. But ask for it anyway. It will make them feel
valued. And it will cause them to let their guard down
and in turn have a better attitude. Power!
3) Make him or her feel
important. Remember that you may be
dealing with a person that has a huge ego. Every now
and then you have to stroke that ego. Imagine that the
person is walking around with a tattoo on his or her
forehead that says, “make me feel important today.”
In most cases
a sincere compliment can do the job. But some others
may require a little stroking. By the way, everyone
in this world craves one thing…the need to feel
important. Some of us just go about it in different
ways. By your making this person feel important, you
have conquered the ego. Power!
4)
Get the person to talk about him or herself.
This should not be a hard one. The world is full of
talkers. I am one of them. But good listeners are too
few and far between. And you know what? There are many
wounded souls out there. They need someone to give them
the gift of listening.
I remember
attending a social gathering where I consciously decided
to listen. One lady commented that I was a very good
conversationalist. And guest what? She did all the talking.
I was just a sounding board. When you give others the
opportunity to get things off their chest and/or their
weary mind, they feel indebted to you. Power!
There you have it my friend. People around you might
say that you are sucking up. But if you use what I have
just shared with you wisely, you will rise to a position
of power and fame in no time. You will have better relationships;
you will be much happier. And those who criticize you
will simply continue to live frustrating lives at
the mercy
of others.
Have fun!
Rene Godefroy
is the award-winning author of No Condition is Permanent,
a motivational keynote speaker and business consultant
who shares ideas and strategies that helps individuals
achieve extraordinary results in theirs lives. For more
information, click on this link: Motivational
Speaker
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