Great to hear from you.

Brilliant feedback! Thanks for participating.

It’s good to remind us that we have to be aware that there are up and down moments in a relationship. That’s for any relationship. Fortunately some are more aware and tolerant and others are not. I certainly can do a better job at it.

But we must be very careful not to let friends destroy or devalue us as they are doing it to themselves. For sure we need to do our best to bring them up.

However, the good old advice is very simple. When you are trying to save a person who is drowning and the person is pulling you down to die with him or her, save your life!

There are times when you can help and try every ounce of your energy to do so. But there are times when you must simply walk away and stop feeling guilty.

Take care Yves.

It is difficult to advance in life if more “friends” are pulling you down versus pushing you up.

If this is the case then its time to take inventory of whom you associate.

Humbly,

Herm Allen, The People’s Coach

I wish to tell everyone that you are ma inspiration. I speak about you and your Haiti background, journey to America, etc when I get booked to speak. I know you are great. Ever thought about coming to Africa? Think Ghana or Nigeria, I gat u covered!

Friends will dump their problems on you as if you are responsible for their choices.

There’s a big difference between being there for a true friend and allowing everyone to bring their baggage to you in addition to your own.

You have to know how to draw the line in the sand.

This is a wonderful article. I believe that this is generally true. But my comment to this article is that people need to differentiate between Friends and Colleagues. When you have someone in your life that you call a friend, you must expect and must be willing to deal with the positive and the negative behaviors exhibiting by this individual just because of the fact that this individual is your friend.

You can not expect your friends to be good and supportive all the time. Because believe me you are running for big disappointments. A friend is someone that you attend a level of comfort with. From that comfort will breed some positive and some negative behaviors and one must be willing to deal with them all.

On the other hand people need to surround themselves with good and positive colleagues and mentors. You see, your colleague will know and understand where you are at and where you want to be.

And they will have no shame in supporting you. Anybody who is 25 years old or older needs to have good colleagues and mentors to support him/her to attend his/her goals. But friendship must be kept on a very basic an personal level. Otherwise one will run the risks of major disappointments.

Yves Regis
Hartford, CT

I kind of lost of my French. Just like anything else, if you don’t use it, you lose it.

Anyway, great to hear from you Myrka.